The majority of us have been there…stuck in a rut, so to speak, in a relationship that has lost its luster. Sure, you’re still in love, but there’s just something missing when it comes to the sexual side of things. You’re in luck though, as we’ve compiled a few tips and tricks for improving your love life and adding that sparkle back into that well-aged relationship.
Tip #1 – Nights out on the town = spicier nights in the bedroom.
Getting out of the house can bring a little bit of spice back into your love life. This is due to the fact that, while in our homes, we are surrounded by and constantly reminded of the everyday things in life. When trying to make passionate love there, you might tend to think of other matters: did I pay the electric bill or wouldn’t this room look great in red? Allowing yourself to be in the moment is a key element in being truly intimate with someone. When your mind wanders, so will your intimacy. Therefore, why not try getting out for a night on the town? Sneak away for dinner and a movie, followed by a stay in a ritzy local hotel. You won’t need to do this every evening, of course; just once in a while to rekindle that spark (Griffin, 2007).
[showmyads] Tip #2 – Exercise more often.
In a study published by the Journal of Sexual Medicine, it was found that an unhealthy lifestyle was more prevalent in those who are not sexually active. Not only can living a sedentary lifestyle make you feel uncomfortable while having sex (as it might affect your perception of your outward appearance), it can also contribute to difficulties in having long, meaningful sexual encounters with your mate. Sexual dysfunction in men has been linked with living an unhealthy lifestyle. Exercise at least three times a week to boost your ego, your stamina and your love life. The rewards can be spectacular! (Nauert, 2011).
Tip #3 – Keep a shared Journal.
Studies have shown that keeping a shared journal with your partner, where you write down your feelings and thoughts, can improve the chances of a couple staying together by more than 20%. So, take a few minutes every week and jot down some notes for your partner to read, and vice versa. You may not think that such a simple act could liven up your love life, but merely knowing how your special someone feels can help you to understand him/her a bit better in the bedroom, as well as out of it (Wiseman, 2010).
Tip #4 – Ask questions.
One of the first things you might hear married couples complain about, in private of course, is that their partner simply doesn’t know what they want in the bedroom. You would think that after spending so much time together, these persons would know exactly what their mate’s likes or dislikes are, when making love. However, even persons who have been married for many a long year might never have asked questions such as: Have you considered role play? or Do you think that we’re having sex often enough? Knowledge is power, they say. And they are right. Asking these simple questions can give you a great idea as to what your partner wants or needs in his/her love life (Griffin, 2007).
Tip #5 – Take your time, it’s not a race.
There’s a lot to be said for taking your time when making love. The main cause for rushing through it, is usually our busy schedules. Another reason is that we might have become so used to our partner that we start to see lovemaking as simply a task to be done and gotten over with. In such a scenario, the focus is completely on the end result and the fastest way to get there, rather than the journey which can be even more fulfilling. Tonight, try taking your time. Include your entire body in the act of lovemaking, not just the parts that you usually associate with sex. Remember to kiss one another slowly and take as much time as you need. After all, it’s a marathon, not a sprint (Griffin, 2007).
If you’ve noticed a bit of a damper in your love life, don’t give up. Try these few simple tips and tricks with your partner to get yourselves back on track. Getting it just right can take time, but is well worth it in the end.
Nauert, R., (2011, July 7). Men can improve health to improve sex life. Psych Central. Retrieved from http://psychcentral.com/news/2011/07/07/men-can-improve-health-to-improve-sex-life/27528.html on February 17, 2012.
Griffin, R. M., (2007, August 5). 10 Secrets to a better love life. Web MD. Retrieved from http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/10-secrets-to-better-love-life on February 17, 2012.
Wiseman, R., (2010, February 11). Improve your love life with science. Science Focus. Retrieved from http://sciencefocus.com/blog/improve-your-love-life-science on February 17, 2012
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